Each person is unique and carries human qualities and talents just waiting to unfold. Still believe it and grow this “better” self … for his own happiness and that of others through bands recorded by dash cam or nanny cam with audio for your big day. It is indeed by seeking to know ourselves better that we can discover the “nuggets” that are dormant in us: human qualities, creative talents, family traditions, simple experiences that have forged in us positive reflexes, skills and abilities, behaviors that others sometimes can appreciate in us. Joy and good humor “natural”, ability to go to others, sweetness and interiority, taste of nature, love of the family, interest in science, curiosity for other cultures, gifts for languages, pleasure to work of its hands, passion for reading … So go on a quest for those little treasures that are already germinating in you, think back to your past, to the compliments that were made to you, to the experiences and situations that made you happy.
The best is not necessarily the best or the best
Be careful not to look too great things like exceptional creative talents or brilliant performances … What is exceptional, by definition, is rare. And then, what you wear “best” does not necessarily make you “the best” or “the best” in situations where you face others like sports or studies for example It may be that you have human qualities, such as the ability to listen and be mediator, that are not taken into account in the school system or have not yet been revealed. Do not be discouraged by your failures, bad results, or negative judgments about yourself. Do not lock yourself in the sterile comparisons (I’m less beautiful than my sister, less intelligent than my father, less athletic than my neighbor …), but come back to the central idea that you have excellent things in you, and only you can give them!Rethink the activities that gave you pleasure A good method to discover your qualities can be to simply question your family: trusted friends, family members who love you, sports teacher … How do they see you? According to them, what are your qualities? These outward and benevolent looks complete the one you carry on yourself. The so-called “360 °” method is used in companies and by orientation coaches to help people get to know each other better. Another, even simpler method: think back to the moments of your childhood or your past where you were really happy, and especially to situations or activities where you felt a great pleasure. The best grows in us day after day Whatever talents and qualities you already have, you still have to cultivate them and grow them step by step, to deploy them through work, training or learning. Do you have a taste for music? It is the learning of music theory and the diligent practice of your instrument that will allow you to deploy and make a talent. Even the greatest artists do not hide the fact that their works have often required months of work. To hatch “the best” of our lives is thus a patient and progressive work … No discouragement if you are not immediately “at the top” or if your qualities seem to you fluctuating. Getting the best of the worst is possible This modesty, however, must avoid laziness, which makes me spoil my talents and my chances, or zapping from one activity to another that prevents me from digging the “best” in me. Finally beware of the overflow of activities: I fill my life with parties, “friends” and hours spent on social networks, I fill the void and the anxiety to be alone in a whirlwind of activities or consumption forgetting to ask me the only important question: “what will make me happiest”, what motivates me in life?Give the best for me and for others My talents, my experience and the qualities I wear do not only serve my personal growth. This “best” that I draw from myself, I can give to others. How? Simply by giving my loved ones my human qualities, my talents, by building projects that others could not have done, by putting my abilities at the service of a company, a society, an association, from a family. “Feeling useless is one of the greatest sufferings of man, explain the philosophers’ personalities, because the human being is not made to live alone but it draws a part of its happiness from this gift to others”. Here are some meditations that will help you get the most out of your life. THE TIME WASTING Today, there will be endless interruptions: phone calls, emails, visitors, unexpected events. Booker T. Washington observed that “the number of people who are willing to consume time, without any goal, is almost innumerable.” A philosopher, on the other hand, knows that their default state should be that of reflection and inner consciousness. That’s why they protect their personal space and their thoughts against the intrusions of the world. They know that a few minutes of reflection are worth more than a meeting or a report. They also know how little time we actually have in life – and how quickly our reserves can be depleted. We could be good at protecting our physical property; we are too lax to enforce our mental limits. The property can be found. But time? Time is our most irreplaceable asset, we cannot buy more. We can only try to waste as little as possible. DO NOT SELL YOU SO EASILY People spend a lot more money when they use credit cards than when they have to withdraw real money. If you’ve ever wondered why credit card companies and banks impose cards so aggressively, here’s the reason. The more credit cards you have, the more you will spend.
THIS IS ONLY ONE NUMBER
They say that age is only a number, but for some people it’s very important – otherwise, women would not lie about being younger, and ambitious young people would not lie to appear older. Rich people spend billions of dollars hoping to move the expiry date of about 78 years to immortality. The number of years that we manage to erase does not matter, only what these years consist of. Seneca expresses it better when he says, “Life is long if you know how to use it.”
A SIMPLE WAY TO MEASURE OUR DAYS
The Stoics did not think everyone could be perfect. The idea of becoming wise – the highest aspiration of a philosopher – was unrealistic. It was only their Platonic ideal.Yet, they started every day hoping to get closer to this brand. There was a lot to gain in the test. Can you live today as if it were your last day? Is it even possible to embody completeness or perfection in our ethos (character) doing the right things effortlessly for twenty-four hours? Is it possible for more than a minute? Maybe not. But if the test was enough for the Stoics, that should be enough for us too.
WHAT DO YOU FEAR IF NOT TO LOSE?
What kind of pathetic and sad life do you have if you are so disconnected from the world that you do not even know if you are on the ground? How did the man know if he was still alive? Most of us are afraid to die. But sometimes, this fear involves the question: to protect what exactly? For many people, the answer is: hours of television, gossip, force-feeding, wasted potential, boring work, and so on. Except in its strict sense, is it really a life? Is it worth it to focus on that and be afraid of losing?It does not look like it.
RESPOND TO YOUR OWN CLAIM
In his notebook about immortality, Ralph Waldo Emerson complained about the way writers dance around a difficult subject based on quotes. “I hate the quote,” he wrote. “Tell me what you know.” It is easier to quote, to rely on the wise words of others. Especially when the people you are different to are such tall figures! It is harder (and more intimidating) to venture alone and express your own thoughts. But how do you think the wise and authentic quotations of these great figures were created in the first place? Your own experiences are valuable. You have also accumulated your own wisdom. Claim your right. Produce something for centuries – in your words and also in the example.
LIFE IS LONG – IF YOU KNOW HOW TO USE IT
Nobody knows how long they have to live, but unfortunately we can be sure of one thing: we will lose a lot of life time. Waste time in delays, wasting time chasing bad things, wasting time by refusing to take the time to ask ourselves what is really important to us. All too often, we are like overconfident academics that Petrarch criticized in his classic essay on ignorance – the types who “constantly waste their powers in dealing with things outside of them and looking for them down “. Yet, they have no idea that this is what they do. The average American spends about 40 hours a year on road traffic. There are months in a lifetime. And for “road traffic”, you can replace so many activities – from wrestling with other people to watch TV to daydream.